Life in a Bind – BPD and me

Borderline Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and my therapy journey. Listed in Top Ten Resources for BPD in 2016 by goodtherapy.org. I write for welldoing.org and for Muse Magazine Australia, under the name Clara Bridges.

Book reviews – some of my favourite reads about therapy

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As part of the WiseWords series on the therapy website welldoing.org, I wrote a post on some of my favourite books about therapy, which you can find here:

https://welldoing.org/article/wisewords-14-irvin-yalom-to-stephen-grosz

My only caveat with recommending books about therapy, is that I think it’s important to be mindful that they do not get in the way of one’s own therapeutic process. My own therapist rightly pointed out that I was reading about therapy because I was still looking for answers on to ‘how to do it right’ – a tendency which causes me difficulty in multiple areas of my life. The same tendency to seek for answers elsewhere was part of my reason for reading about others’ therapy experiences; in addition, sometimes I would find myself playing out my own issues in session through the framework or vehicle of someone else’s story, rather than the specifics of my own. And though my therapist was kind enough not to comment on this (!), reading accounts by other therapists also gave me some distinctly unhelpful bouts of ‘the grass is greener….’ . Whereas I’ve come to the conclusion that comparing one’s therapist to anyone else’s is rarely productive, and completely misses the point of trying to develop an accepting, trusting, and unique therapeutic relationship between two unique people. It misses the person sitting right in front of you, by wanting them to do or be something other than the person – or therapist – they are. Nevertheless, and bearing those caveats in mind, reading about therapy can be helpful and illuminating, particularly near the beginning of the process, I think. I hope you enjoy these suggestions, and it would be good to hear from others who may have read them!

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6 thoughts on “Book reviews – some of my favourite reads about therapy

  1. I’ve read the book by Yalom, and also found it fascinating. I’ve put the other two on my wishlist… I hope I can find it at the library. I’m not sure whether you’ve read the book “I’m Working on it in Therapy” by Gary Trosclair? I wrote a review on it which is under my ‘Book Reviews’ section. I learned quite a bit from this book.

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  2. I think I read about therapy to figure out how to do it better myself and also to make sense out of the things that are confusing. Sometimes it really helps. Other times it pulls me out of the work into a very cerebral place that isn’t very productive.

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    • Absolutely – to both parts. I also read to find out ‘how to do’ – which is why I now try and read less 🙂 As I spent quite a lot of time in the earlier days, getting hung up on and quite distressed about ‘not doing therapy right’. Equally, these days I prefer topics to come up more ‘naturally’ than because they happen to be the thing I’m reading about at the time, even though there may be no emotional connection at that point with any events in my life…..I hope you’re doing okay xxxx

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  3. This is such a great post, because through professional help, the disorder becomes more manageable. Without help and understanding, it can consume oneself and lead to harmful consequences. Thank you.

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