Life in a Bind – BPD and me

My therapy journey, recovering from Borderline Personality Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I write for , for Planet Mindful magazine, and for Muse Magazine Australia, under the name Clara Bridges. Listed in Top Ten Resources for BPD in 2016 by

Mourning the “didn’t have”s of childhood


A couple of weeks ago I experienced one of those significant moments in therapy when something you know in theory becomes something you understand in practice. When ‘head knowledge’ becomes ‘heart knowledge’. I’ve read about the fact that sometimes the task of therapy is to help us grieve what we didn’t receive as children, and my therapist has said much the same. I didn’t understand how it was possible; or what that would look like. Finally I think I understand what it means for me, and I wrote about it here:

As my therapist said to me after I showed the article to her: “that is how we make progress….we get there first in theory and then in practice…..”

8 thoughts on “Mourning the “didn’t have”s of childhood

  1. This article is so helpful to me. It has helped shape to me what my therapy will help me to do: gain my confidence and sense of self and grieve that it didn’t come in my teens and early twenties when I needed it to, and how different things would be in my life. Not that it’s a bad life, I just wouldn’t have made some of th decisions I have made or lived with a sense of emptiness and longing for so long.

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  2. This resonated with me on so many levels—Thank you!

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  3. I am a therapist and really enjoying your writing about therapy, your honesty and braveness. Thank you.

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  4. Well said.

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  5. Thank you for this article. I read it before bed last night and have woken up and read it again. It’s really helped me to put into words how I’m feeling in therapy at the moment. X

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